{"id":233,"date":"2026-07-27T03:45:39","date_gmt":"2026-07-27T03:45:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=233"},"modified":"2026-07-27T03:45:56","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T03:45:56","slug":"aita-for-asking-my-dad-to-think-of-our-grief-of-our-mum-when-planning-his-wedding-to-new-fiance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=233","title":{"rendered":"AITA for asking my dad to think of our grief of our mum when planning his wedding to new fianc\u00e9?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Ban-sao-cua-Copy-of-Dailyviral.net_feature_image-2025-12-25T110151.742-1-768x403.jpg\" alt=\"AITA for faking my giving birth?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><a href=\"\/\"> <\/a><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Losing a reshapes a in ways no one is ever truly prepared for. In this case, a woman and her siblings are still trying to find their footing two years after their mother died young from cancer. While they\u2019re navigating anniversaries, memories, and quiet grief, their father has already stepped into a brand-new chapter\u2014complete with a fianc\u00e9e, plans, and a future that feels uncomfortably fast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The tension isn\u2019t about stopping the wedding or denying him happiness. It\u2019s about timing, awareness, and whether he\u2019s paused long enough to notice that his children are still hurting. When wedding invitations and celebrations collide with the anniversary of their mum\u2019s death, emotions spill over. Her attempt to speak up sparks distance instead of understanding, and readers on social media had plenty to say about whether she crossed a line or simply spoke an uncomfortable truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/721227-2.webp\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This image is not real, it was generated by AI to depict the situation of the story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174637339-1.webp\" alt=\"AITA for asking my dad to think of our grief of our mum when planning his wedding to new fianc\u00e9?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The loss of their mother changed everything, and grief never followed a straight line<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175146189-1.webp\" alt=\"2 years ago my mum died from cancer.She was very young, in her late 50s. My parents were married and happy, of course it was so hard for all us.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175147227-2.webp\" alt=\"In under a year he met a new woman and then months later announce they\u2019re engaged. It\u2019s a short engagement, about 8-9 months from getting engaged till the actual wedding.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175148146-3.webp\" alt=\"I do understand a lot of people (seemingly more widowed men from stories l've others have told me) find someone very quickly and often be remarried before a year even,...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For the children, the speed of change only added confusion and pain<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175135404-1.webp\" alt=\"For my siblings and l it has been a little strange as for us as we are still processing the death of our mother but also the new fiance is...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175136365-2.webp\" alt=\"and my sister who are the eldest. we've tried our best to make an effort to be happy for him and be welcoming to her, all while processing our grief.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175137275-3.webp\" alt=\"My issue is that he so wrapped up with his new fianc\u00e9 that he\u2019s forgotten we are still grieving. To the point that on the 2 year anniversary of our...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175138231-4.webp\" alt=\"It hurt all of us that they didn\u2019t think about this date in the days\/week leading up to it, but I decided to leave it as I didn't want to...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The situation deepened when her maternal grandparents were involved<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175112530-1.webp\" alt=\"He sent a message to my grandma (my mums mum) out of the blue after no contact since the funeral (I was with my grandma at the time)\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175113440-2.webp\" alt=\"asking for their address so he could send them an invite the day after the anniversary, hence we were with my grandparents to support each other.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175114362-3.webp\" alt=\"Not asking how they were at this time\/how they were coping with loss of their daughter\/whether they\u2019d be ok with an invite... just stating they were being invited and he...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175115291-4.webp\" alt=\"My dear grandma said she\u2019d like to attend for our sake, though my grandad refused point blank and was too upset to talk further.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Another reminder followed, this time wrapped in celebration<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175097948-1.webp\" alt=\"A month later me and my sisters were added to the hen do WhatsApp group with all new fianc\u00e9s friends all now chatting excitedly and planning the hen.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175098863-2.webp\" alt=\"For us that was another pang of heartache, as we are only in this position coz our mum (pretty recently) died.. Here's where l'm wondering if AlTA...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Finally, she chose to speak up, unsure of the fallout<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175090121-1.webp\" alt=\"I sent my dad a message to say I'm happy for him but feel theyve not though about our grief and would've liked to be asked first before being added...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175091317-2.webp\" alt=\"But most importantly remember certain dates, i.e. the anniversary, and not send wedding invites in the days\/week before this time. He replied saying &quot;sorry l'm not being thoughtful enough.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175092294-3.webp\" alt=\"l'll make sure to check with you beforehand&quot;. Not it might've been insensitive to send his kids wedding invites just before the anniversary. I said I don\u2019t want him to...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175093266-4.webp\" alt=\"Then he blamed the post and said that it wasn't their fault it arrived on the day. Now I think he's avoiding me. So, AITA for putting a dampener on...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This story sits at the crossroads of two very different grieving processes. For the children, their mother\u2019s death is a permanent absence that reshaped their identity and family structure. For the father, grief appears to have pushed him toward rebuilding his life as quickly as possible. Neither response is rare, but when they clash, resentment and hurt often follow. ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">From the children\u2019s perspective, the pain isn\u2019t about jealousy or resistance to change. It\u2019s about feeling forgotten. When significant dates like death anniversaries are overlooked, it sends an unspoken message that their grief is inconvenient. That kind of emotional disconnect can feel deeply isolating, especially when the surviving parent is no longer a safe place to land.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">According to grief researcher and psychologist Dr. Alan Wolfelt, \u201cGrief that is not acknowledged is grief that is intensified.\u201d When family members move forward at different speeds without open compassion, the unacknowledged grief tends to resurface in moments of conflict rather than healing conversations. Practically, this situation calls for clear boundaries and realistic expectations. The father may not slow down or fully understand the depth of his children\u2019s pain right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That doesn\u2019t mean their feelings are wrong. It means they may need to seek support from siblings, extended family, or grief counselors rather than expecting emotional attunement from someone who may be coping through avoidance. Speaking up wasn\u2019t wrong\u2014it was honest. What happens next depends less on guilt and more on how each person chooses to protect their emotional wellbeing. ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Here\u2019s the input from the Reddit crowd:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Many readers immediately validated OP\u2019s feelings and grief<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175008124-1.webp\" alt=\"coastalkid92 \u2212 NTA. It's not unreasonable on your part to feel shaken by your dad's behaviour. You and your siblings are grieving your mum but you can't really even lean...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175009457-2.webp\" alt=\"And now on top of your grief, you're trying to figure out two new family dynamics, the one where your mum is gone and the one where your dad has...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175010413-3.webp\" alt=\"I think your response to him was completely appropriate. Do I think the post thing was a mishap? Probably. But it doesn't hurt to ask him to be a bit...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175011378-4.webp\" alt=\"Naive_Pay_7066 \u2212 NTA Your dad is so focused on his own feelings he\u2019s forgotten (or didn\u2019t ever realise in the first place) that his children are grieving.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175012322-5.webp\" alt=\"In addition, his upcoming wedding is likely a way for him to avoid his grief and pain. How well it will work, only time will tell. Your dad did a...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175013252-6.webp\" alt=\"Instead of copping to it, he\u2019s turned defensive and tried to make it your fault (and the post\u2019s fault which doesn\u2019t hold up given the call to your gran the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175014195-7.webp\" alt=\"Whether you decide to let him off the hook or not is your call. Talking to the fianc\u00e9e about it might be an option? I\u2019m sorry for your loss. My...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175015300-8.webp\" alt=\"(of three years so different to a spouse of decades) started dating within months of her death. Fortunately I have no reason to remain in contact with him so I...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175016269-9.webp\" alt=\"Llink3483 \u2212 NTA I am very sorry for your loss, this must be a very difficult time for you. You are not asking him to not get married nor do...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175017260-10.webp\" alt=\"You have simply made your feelings known and asked them to respect that which considering the insensitive actions (intended or not) is completely fair enough.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175018209-11.webp\" alt=\"If you are to consider his feelings in wanting to get remarried to move on he should consider yours in doing what you have asked.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175019117-12.webp\" alt=\"Everybody is trying to learn how to navigate life with grief, it is different for everybody and the path is not easy or clear.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175019989-13.webp\" alt=\"The best we can all do is support each other as best we can. And for that to happen feelings need to be communicated. I hope you can all work...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175020916-14.webp\" alt=\"IF he is more concerned about this being a dampener to the wedding then there is the bigger issues of your feelings being second to his new life. I hope...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175021931-15.webp\" alt=\"Itsyagirl1996 \u2212 NTA. As a matter of fact you\u2019re not the a__hole ENOUGH. I\u2019d be way more of an a__hole. Sorry about your mama she\u2019s always with you.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175022912-16.webp\" alt=\"NotYourMommyDear \u2212 Unfortunately it's a very real stereotype for some men to speedrun the replacement of their spouse asap. Sometimes even while she's ill.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770175024903-17.webp\" alt=\"NTA. Your dad didn't even bother to read the room or remember to consider even a scrap of empathy for you and your mother's family.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Others offered mixed perspectives or cautionary advice<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174902927-1.webp\" alt=\"CuntIsIndeedFucked \u2212 NTA for raising it as a concern, but the chances you're going to receive a genuine apology or the deserved heartfelt conversation are minimal at best.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174903917-2.webp\" alt=\"There's a chance he'll understand the hurt he's caused and reach out, but there's a higher chance he'll sulk, pout and wait to throw this in your face .\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174904903-3.webp\" alt=\"Please be prepared for the selfish army to return resolute in their decision. Hold your high and stand by your siblings \/ maternal family - they need you more.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174906903-4.webp\" alt=\"throwAWweddingwoe \u2212 How old is everyone in this scenario? I have very different advice if ppl are in there 30s to if everyone is early 20s.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174908898-5.webp\" alt=\"My dad died of cancer and my mum met my stepfather at a cancer widower (his wife had died a few months earlier) support group 6 weeks later.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174910906-6.webp\" alt=\"At the time I didn't understand it, but now as an adult I do. My mum, like my stepfather and many other ppl, doesn't like being alone. She needed the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174912902-7.webp\" alt=\"My father's parents mourned him forever, my sister and I still reflect on what our lives would have been like even after 35 years since his passing, my mum moved...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174914910-8.webp\" alt=\"She was devastated when he died (refused to let go of the coffin in the cemetery devastated) but ultimately a partner and the place that fills in your life can't...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174916913-9.webp\" alt=\"For my grandparents and my sister and I, his memory can fill the void his death left. So where does that leave you after 2 years . ... Well that...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174918900-10.webp\" alt=\"If you are in your late 20s, early 30s I think you need to realise that while you still may be grieving it's a bit cruel to ask your father...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174920902-11.webp\" alt=\"It hurts watching your parent move on, it feels like your parent is being replaced, their memory erased, their mark on this world gone.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174922908-12.webp\" alt=\"It really really hurts and if you are young and still without fully cooked brains your father should be very sensitive to this pain, but there gets to a point\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174924910-13.webp\" alt=\"(and personally I think for ppl 30ish plus it's about 6 months) where unless it's an overtly cruel or insensitive action you need to just process the grief seperate from...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174926918-14.webp\" alt=\"I do agree with you that the invitation timing was a slip up but it wasn't intentional. My grandpa used to tell me that death is hardest on those left...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174928908-15.webp\" alt=\"Any-Rip-8105 \u2212 NTA Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss. I am very close with my mom, and I can not even imagine the pain you are experiencing. Secondly,...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174930898-16.webp\" alt=\"I think your father never actually cared for your mother in a healthy way (cheating and abuse during their marriage, now moving on quickly after her death).\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174932925-17.webp\" alt=\"I believe you should accept that, and with that in mind, you should approach his relationship with his current partner.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174933902-18.webp\" alt=\"He put your mother through a lot of humiliation during her life and what you should do is remember her and try to preserve all the memories you have of...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174935917-19.webp\" alt=\"(pictures and videos, you should go with the people who cared for her to visit her favourite places, listen to her favourite music, watch her favourite movies).\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174936917-20.webp\" alt=\"He might start erasing her from your home and it would be good to save everything of hers. Asking your father to think about your feelings is pointless\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174937907-21.webp\" alt=\"because he didn't care about your mom or you while cheating. Don't talk to him about how all of this is hurting you because he will turn around and say...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174938912-22.webp\" alt=\"So don't give him a reason to blame you for anything. Regarding the wedding, I would approach it like a task\/homework and try not to get emotionally involved. Answer only...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174940911-23.webp\" alt=\"Don't be rude, just do it, and once everything is done or when it gets too much, surround yourself with people who want to remember your mother and do something...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174941901-24.webp\" alt=\"Shouldonlytakeaday \u2212 I\u2019m so sorry, OP. The same thing happened to me. Prepare yourself for your Dad to go full-on into his new life without so much as a second...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174942906-25.webp\" alt=\"My mother was literally never mentioned again after my Dad remarried. It\u2019s extremely hurtful. Now is the time to get hold of any of your mother\u2019s possessions which remain in...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174943905-26.webp\" alt=\"msbeesy \u2212 NAH. It\u2019s reasonable for you not to like this situation, but it\u2019s reasonable for your dad to move on. You will grieve your mother for the rest of...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174944887-27.webp\" alt=\"Your father is older and is ready to move on your mother was not his mother. It\u2019s complicated and therefore NAH.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some comments were blunt, emotional, or sharply critical<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174873045-1.webp\" alt=\"OkMark6180 \u2212 You shouldn't go to the Hen party. It's for her friends. Bloody insensitive I think.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174874535-2.webp\" alt=\"Next-Comedian-4263 \u2212 NTA. My mum died (also late 50s) of cancer and not even a year later my dad asked me for a plus-one to my wedding.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174875612-3.webp\" alt=\"I asked him to consider how I would feel seeing someone sitting in the seat my mother should have occupied at church and then at the reception. He didn\u2019t challenge...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174876810-4.webp\" alt=\"[Reddit User] \u2212 NTA Sorry but your dad is a huge ass for this imo. it's cool if he find someone else, and pretty fast after your mom death.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174877741-5.webp\" alt=\"Good for him, really, but it's not hard to understand and respect the fact that the rest of the family might still be very affected and still be processing the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174878683-6.webp\" alt=\"Especially his own children, who lost their mother, and his parents, who lost their daughter ! I mean no s__t your grandad refuse the invite and got upset for it,...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174879665-7.webp\" alt=\"LaceAndLavatera \u2212 I'm so sorry you are going through this, my dad also met his new girlfriend within 6 months of mum dying. And it's been so hard on the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174880648-8.webp\" alt=\"He refused to come to my first born child's 1st birthday because the new gf wasn't invited the fact that my mum died 3 weeks before my child was born...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174881741-9.webp\" alt=\"The only advice I can give you is to set some boundaries and stick to them, if you allow him to trample on your feelings at the beginning in the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174882746-10.webp\" alt=\"I can't say it'll get easier, it certainly hasn't for me, but at least over time your grief won't be so overwhelming on top of dealing with an insensitive parent....\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174883667-11.webp\" alt=\"CathoftheNorth \u2212 Well your dad sounds like a d__k. .. that's what he seems to be thinking with in any case. It personally makes my stomach churn seeing old men...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174884612-12.webp\" alt=\"It's gross. You're totally NTA, and have every right to be hurt by his thoughtless actions. Sadly I think he stopped loving your mother a long time ago.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/wp-editor-1770174885537-13.webp\" alt=\"My MIL passed away 15 years ago, my FIL cried for her every single day. Never wanted another partner, even still signed her name in every card and kept using...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This situation highlights how grief doesn\u2019t move at the same pace for everyone. 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