{"id":197,"date":"2026-07-25T02:53:42","date_gmt":"2026-07-25T02:53:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=197"},"modified":"2026-07-25T02:53:43","modified_gmt":"2026-07-25T02:53:43","slug":"aita-for-asking-my-26m-gfs22f-father-his-blessing-to-propose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=197","title":{"rendered":"AITA for asking my (26M) gf\u2019s(22F) father his blessing to propose?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/444730-2-768x403.jpg\" alt=\"AITA for quitting my job only after my divorce, even though my ex wanted me to do it before?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><a href=\"\/\"> <\/a><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A 26-year-old man thought he was taking a thoughtful step toward proposing to the woman he loves. After more than a year of , he believed their relationship had reached the point where felt like the natural next step. While visiting his girlfriend\u2019s hometown, he decided to follow what he considered a respectful tradition by asking her father for his blessing before proposing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The conversation, however, did not go as expected. Instead of receiving a warm reaction, her father seemed surprised and uncomfortable. Soon after, the girlfriend learned what had happened and responded with anger rather than excitement. She explained that she was not ready for marriage and felt humiliated that such a discussion took place without her involvement. What the man intended as a romantic gesture quickly turned into a misunderstanding that exposed deeper differences in expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/q2y9-qqWTKSoTqeuS8syUQ@2k_aubtu.webp\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This image is not real, it was generated by AI to depict the situation of the story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>\u2018AITA for asking my (26M) gf\u2019s(22F) father his blessing to propose?\u2019<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The man believed the timing felt right after more than a year together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520461572-1.webp\" alt=\"I've been dating my girlfriend for a bit more than a year. She's the perfect girl for me, she's hot, caring and smart, and we both love each other very...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520464637-2.webp\" alt=\"I've been thinking about proposing for a while, my girlfriend is almost done with school and I have a good job with a lot of savings.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520469865-3.webp\" alt=\"Since we're visiting her hometown for the week, thought this week would be a good moment to ask her father for his blessing. I've only met with her family a...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520472872-4.webp\" alt=\"but they never seemed to have a problem with me. Her father is pretty easy going, so while we don't have much in common, I wasn't really scared of his...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">During a private moment, he decided to bring up the topic with her father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520493126-1.webp\" alt=\"This afternoon, while my gf was out with old friends, I sat down with him and asked him if I'd have his blessing to marry his daughter. He looked really...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520496123-2.webp\" alt=\"I explained that I was, that I loved his daughter very much and would make sure she never needs anything. He said something along the lines of ''woa, I don't...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520499066-3.webp\" alt=\"We were silent for a bit and he left the room. I was disapointed to say the least, but still had hopes to covince him.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The situation escalated when his girlfriend learned what happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520526679-1.webp\" alt=\"My girlfriend came back soon after, and recieved a phone call from her mother, who told her I asked gf's dad for his blessing.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520535631-2.webp\" alt=\"My girlfriend was really angry at me for asking her dad instead of her and that doing so is sexist(which is stupid because the point was to ask her dad...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520546637-3.webp\" alt=\"saying she was absolutely not ready for marriage, wasn't even considering it because she thought it was way too early in our relationship (after more than a year?).\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520557645-4.webp\" alt=\"She said she felt humiliated in front of her parents and now she left to sleep at her mother's tonight, leaving me alone with her father whose been avoiding me...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520572768-5.webp\" alt=\"I'm really hurt by her reaction and the way she viewed the possibility of marrying me as completely absurd. I'm really angry and confused at her parents for telling her...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Misunderstandings around proposals often stem from differences in expectations about and tradition. While surprise proposals are common, many modern relationships rely on open conversations about long-term goals before such a step is taken. When those discussions do not happen beforehand, even well-intentioned gestures can feel unexpected or overwhelming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The tradition of asking a parent for their blessing before proposing has different meanings depending on cultural background and personal beliefs. For some people, it represents respect toward family and an effort to involve loved ones in an important milestone. For others, it carries historical associations with outdated gender roles, which can make the practice uncomfortable or unwelcome. Because of these different interpretations, couples often benefit from discussing how they feel about such traditions ahead of time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Another important element in this situation is timing. After a year of dating, some couples feel ready to consider marriage, while others still see the relationship as being in an earlier stage. Without clear conversations about shared timelines, assumptions can easily clash. Ultimately, proposals tend to work best when both partners already have a mutual understanding about the possibility of marriage and their long-term plans together. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">See what others had to share with OP:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Many commenters strongly criticized the decision, emphasizing communication and timing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520641639-1.webp\" alt=\"annaanalase \u2212 I'm a girl and I really don't understand the reasons you asked her dad before her. And if he refused, then what? It's so unnecessary thing to do...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520720403-2.webp\" alt=\"Poesy-WordHoard \u2212 Without knowing your cultural context, I'll answer as a woman who grew up in southeast Asia and now lives in the US. YTA. These days, couples build a...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520847955-3.webp\" alt=\"Not be determined by when a man decides to propose. That means that if you've not yet talked to your GF about her expectations of the relationship or her desires...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520859639-4.webp\" alt=\"Do you know what age she's wanting to marry? Have kids or not? How many? What if she's only interested in dating you, not marry at all? That's possible.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520870643-5.webp\" alt=\"Or if she's more interested in building her career before marriage? Even asking for father's blessing is weird, because you wanted to reassure him that she won't need of anything...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520890632-6.webp\" alt=\"Was that agreed upon at all? What about her being capable to care for herself? And be equal partner to her spouse to be?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772520950450-7.webp\" alt=\"I just feel like if her own parents were surprised, it's likely they know her dreams for the future, more than you know them. Talk to her. And listen to...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521106627-8.webp\" alt=\"UnhingedLawyer \u2212 YTA for all the reasons already stated. But also, even in this post, you called your girlfriend\u2019s concerns over sexism \u201cstupid\u201d. That\u2019s how you talk about the woman...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521121206-9.webp\" alt=\"platypus_monster\u00a0\u2212\u00a0Dude. You have been together for only a year. Never talked bout your future or marriage. The hell did you expect? YTA.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521124112-10.webp\" alt=\"[Reddit User] \u2212 YTA It is sexist. You asked her father for permission to marry her. It's a tradition rooted in sexism and is reminiscent of a time when women...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521134636-11.webp\" alt=\"She is very young. She is technically still in her adolescence (ends at 24). A year isn't that long, especially when you are young. Three years is a more typical...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521145626-12.webp\" alt=\"You don't know her. You didn't know she would be upset by what you did. You didn't know that she wouldn't even consider marriage. You don't know her. You know...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521156633-13.webp\" alt=\"ETA: the end of adolescence ends from 19-26 depending on the source of the definition. While the WHO definition uses 19 as the end others do not. It's not rigidly...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521185622-14.webp\" alt=\"There is more frontal lobe development that occurs after 19 in most people. I typically use 24 as the end as that is what makes sense for me when considering...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521406631-15.webp\" alt=\"thecircleofmeep \u2212 she\u2019s 22 and you\u2019ve only been dating a little over a year. ofc she\u2019s not ready for marriage (no hate to those who marry young) YTA\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Other commenters offered explanations about why the tradition can be controversial today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521574637-1.webp\" alt=\"[Reddit User] \u2212 YTA You're just pretending to not understand why it's sexist right? There's no way you actually don't understand why acting like your girlfriend is owned by her...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521586643-2.webp\" alt=\"KaliTheBlaze \u2212 Asking the father if you can propose is old-fashioned and many women (myself included) view it as sexist. It implies that she can\u2019t make the whole decision herself,...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521597636-3.webp\" alt=\"If my husband had asked my dad, my dad would\u2019ve laughed (because I was a grown woman who knew her own mind, and he had no place giving or denying...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521608623-4.webp\" alt=\"and I would have been pissed.\u00a0 I would\u2019ve also said a year was too soon to propose, though that\u2019s partly experience speaking.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521619642-5.webp\" alt=\"The first time I got engaged, it was after just shy of a year of dating, and that relationship went to hell in a hand basket when we faced some...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521646647-6.webp\" alt=\"I don\u2019t think you\u2019re TA for misjudging the timing necessarily, but it shows that you and your girlfriend haven\u2019t talked enough about what your theoretical future together looks like to...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521651609-7.webp\" alt=\"The exact timing can be a surprise, but both people ought to have the idea that getting married in the near future is a shared desire.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A few commenters added straightforward reactions about the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521677638-1.webp\" alt=\"Competitive_Delay865 \u2212 YTA, all of this could have been avoided by having an adult conversation with your partner about future plans.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521684673-2.webp\" alt=\"Some people still like the whole 'asking dad for a blessing\/permission' things, I find it outdated and it seems so does your girlfriend,\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521702644-3.webp\" alt=\"something that would have come up if marriage was at all discussed in the year you've been together, along with a potential timeline of when it might be appropriate to...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521711165-4.webp\" alt=\"WonderTushTheWise \u2212 The tradition of getting a father's blessing is because women were considered property of their fathers until they got married and then they became their husband's property.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521716895-5.webp\" alt=\"So the future husband had to get his potential wife's owner's permission first. This is a sexist and outdated tradition.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/wp-editor-1772521725361-6.webp\" alt=\"If you didn't know your girlfriend would be offended by this or where she stands on marriage, you don't know her well enough to propose yet. YTA\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This situation highlights how traditions, expectations, and communication can collide in modern relationships. While the man believed he was showing respect by asking for a blessing, his girlfriend saw the gesture very differently and felt blindsided by the idea of marriage itself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The disagreement also raises broader questions about how couples approach major life decisions. Should proposals always be preceded by clear conversations about marriage and future plans? 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