{"id":176,"date":"2026-07-24T02:37:06","date_gmt":"2026-07-24T02:37:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=176"},"modified":"2026-07-24T02:37:07","modified_gmt":"2026-07-24T02:37:07","slug":"aita-for-refusing-to-take-my-son-the-er","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=176","title":{"rendered":"AITA for refusing to take my son the ER?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/293713-2-768x403.jpg\" alt=\"AITA for telling my son\u2019s teacher to reconsider her role as an educator?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><a href=\"\/\"> <\/a><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A father lets his 9-year-old ride a unsupervised on 10 acres, then refuses after the vehicle flips onto the boy\u2019s leg. The 61-year-old dad, vacationing at his sister\u2019s out-of-state home, left the exploring alone while he watched TV inside with the brother-in-law. When screams led them to the crashed ATV, the father opted to wait hours for his nurse sister instead of driving to the ER, citing recent discovery of lapsed insurance and confidence in her assessment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Back home, the boy walks fine, yet the 43-year-old mother remains furious over the delay and lack of supervision. The father extended the trip an extra day to visit more, downplaying internal risks. This clash exposes raw fears about medical neglect, financial panic, and wildly different parenting thresholds between spouses separated by 18 years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/694234-2.webp\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This image is not real, it was generated by AI to depict the situation of the story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220076725-1.webp\" alt=\"'AITA for refusing to take my son the ER?'\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The family split for a week-long trip, leaving mother and teen daughters behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220586152-1.webp\" alt=\"I (61M) recently took two of my sons (9) (11) on a trip to my sister's house out of state. We were gone for a week. My wife (43) stayed...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Three days before departure, the youngest seized a rare chance on unfamiliar terrain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220582826-1.webp\" alt=\"3 days before me and my sons headed home, my youngest ( let's call him K) got to ride on my brother in laws (calling him R) fourwheeler. He had...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Adults retreated indoors, assuming distance equaled safety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220578757-1.webp\" alt=\"Me and R headed inside to watch TV. About 10 minutes later R mentions he doesn't hear the fourwheeler anymore. So we both headed outside only to hear my son...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220579707-2.webp\" alt=\"We both started to run toward the screams but I turned around and got R's truck. We found him at the back-half of their property. When I got to them,...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Medical urgency collided with cost fears and delayed expertise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220416264-1.webp\" alt=\"I denied taking him the the hospital because my sister was a nurse and would be able to tell if it was broken or not when she got home in...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220417218-2.webp\" alt=\"Another reason I didn't take him the the hospital also has to do with the fact my oldest daughter (17) recently was in the er with a sprained a__le and...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220418171-3.webp\" alt=\"I figured just waiting for my sister would be fine and if I needed to I would take him to the hospital. I also pushed back our leaving date a...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220419196-4.webp\" alt=\"and she got mad at me for not taking him to the hospital saying there could have been other issues I couldn't see. We are home now and our son...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Parental medical neglect charges loom when caregivers delay care for serious mechanisms of injury, especially in minors. ATV rollovers demand immediate trauma evaluation\u2014internal bleeding, compartment syndrome, or spinal damage can kill within hours, unseen by nurses without imaging. The father\u2019s dual errors\u2014unsupervised operation plus refusal of ER\u2014compound liability; most states mandate reporting such incidents to child services.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Counterarguments citing cost ring hollow against life threats, yet expose systemic healthcare failures forcing impossible choices. Waiting for a nurse defies basic triage: palpable deformity, refusal to bear weight, and heavy machinery involvement scream \u201crule out fracture\u201d in any protocol. What makes the story more complicated, the knot tightens with an 18-year age gap amplifying generational risk tolerance\u2014boomers often downplay helmets and supervision, while younger parents prioritize precaution. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Society increasingly criminalizes \u201caffordable\u201d neglect; the American Academy of Pediatrics urges ER transport for any ATV crash involving children. \u201cDelaying care after crush injury risks permanent disability or death,\u201d warns Dr. Gary Smith, lead author of AAP\u2019s ATV safety policy. This case crystallizes why minimum ATV operator age hovers at 16 in many states\u20149-year-olds lack impulse control and physics comprehension. Ultimately, outcome luck doesn\u2019t erase judgment failure. The wife\u2019s sustained anger signals eroded trust; therapy or co-parenting classes may salvage unity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Here\u2019s the input from the Reddit crowd:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most users branded the dad a walking red flag, citing neglect, ATV stats, and zero excuses for TV over trauma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220376204-1.webp\" alt=\"squidshj \u2212 YTA I was going to mention being medically neglectful but honestly, I don't think it needs that qualifier. You let a 9 year old take off on 10...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220377121-2.webp\" alt=\"and didn't get him medical attention when the obvious happened. Fine or not, I get why your wife is mad. She probably questions whether she can trust you with the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220378071-3.webp\" alt=\"TheDrunkScientist \u2212 my sister was a nurse and would be able to tell if it was broken or not when she got home in a few hours. INFO: does your...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220379081-4.webp\" alt=\"P-Two \u2212 Jesus YTA. This isn't &quot;my boy tripped and his a__le is a tad swollen&quot; this is &quot;a 4 wheeler crashed and ended up on top of my kid&quot;...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220380005-5.webp\" alt=\"he could've had internal bleeding, among a million other things wrong that a few hours wait could've made deadly. Which do you prefer, risking money, or your kids life?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220380912-6.webp\" alt=\"spinningcolours \u2212 YTA. I want to back up to &quot;. .. we found out we didn't have insurance&quot;. And then, &quot;. .. we let him \\[the 9 year old\\] explore...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220381812-7.webp\" alt=\"Me and R \\[the other adult\\] headed inside to watch TV. &quot; In other words, you let your **9 year old** loose on a four-wheeler with zero adult supervision?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220382739-8.webp\" alt=\"??!!?? Not that you'll learn from this, but here's a stat for you. * 135,000 people are injured every year due to ATV accidents. * Over 700 people are killed...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220383718-9.webp\" alt=\"mdthomas \u2212 Monumentously bad parenting decisions and you decide to post about it on Reddit. Throw in an 18 year age gap between you and your wife and the fact...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220384687-10.webp\" alt=\"You're at work. A heavy piece of equipment falls on your leg. It is bleeding, hurts and you can't stand on it. Your boss says &quot;oh, just hang out and...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A handful acknowledged America\u2019s brutal healthcare costs yet still condemned the gamble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220365367-1.webp\" alt=\"PinkedOff \u2212 In a FEW HOURS a nurse might come home to look at a possibility fractured leg? !?!? YTA.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220366225-2.webp\" alt=\"pnutbuttercups56 \u2212 YTA you left a 9 year old alone on a 4 wheeler? my oldest daughter (17) recently was in the er with a sprained a__le and we found...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220367311-3.webp\" alt=\"WorldsWritten \u2212 YTA So many things can go wrong within a few hours that it's kind of surprising your kids are even still alive right now.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220368182-4.webp\" alt=\"[Reddit User] \u2212 YTA When making up an AITA post you have to give the narrator at least one good quality. You went full a__hole; never go full a__hole.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220369119-5.webp\" alt=\"[Reddit User] \u2212 YTA Why is one of the reasons you wont take your kids to get medical attention because YOU dropped the ball with insurance big time.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220370017-6.webp\" alt=\"If your kid suffering for potentially hours is something your okay with when you could take them to get help I don't know why you had kids in the first...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Snark and skepticism rounded out the pile-on, questioning insurance ignorance and story authenticity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220353135-1.webp\" alt=\"sportsfan3177 \u2212 What on earth do you mean, you found out you didn\u2019t have insurance? You are a grown ass man and you don\u2019t know if you have health insurance?...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220354076-2.webp\" alt=\"GopherDog22 \u2212 YTA There could have been other issues and there is definitely some poor judgment being exercised. At the same time, it's a sad reality that in the United...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220355123-3.webp\" alt=\"Solid-Feature-7678 \u2212 When I got to them, R had already lifted the fourwheeler off of my sons leg and he refused to walk on it. I denied taking him the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220356184-4.webp\" alt=\"YES. ..YTA, YTA, a million times YTA. That isn't just an a__hole move it is abusive, neglectful and in my state illegal. How can you even ask that question.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220357102-5.webp\" alt=\"On a side note, Double YTA for leaving a 9yo alone on a four wheeler so you could go watch TV. Toni Collette said in one of her movies that...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220358060-6.webp\" alt=\"Sahaerys \u2212 YTA. Your wife is right, there could have been other issues you didn\u2019t see, and your child was in pain.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/wp-editor-1762220358871-7.webp\" alt=\"dwaynetheakjohnson \u2212 YTA we ***found out*** we don\u2019t have insurance ***HOW? !***\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A 9-year-old survived an ATV rollover only because luck outran his father\u2019s judgment; the mother\u2019s lingering fury underscores broken trust over supervision and medical delay. Cost fears don\u2019t justify gambling with crush injuries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Would you wait hours with a pinned leg to save money, or rush to the ER regardless of bills? Ever faced impossible healthcare choices with kids? Drop your stories and vote: YTA or desperate parent? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Share this post <a href=\"\/\"><\/a><a href=\"\/\"> <\/a><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><a href=\"\/\"> <\/a><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A father lets his 9-year-old ride a unsupervised on 10 acres, then refuses after the vehicle flips onto the boy\u2019s leg. 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