{"id":104,"date":"2026-07-21T03:46:06","date_gmt":"2026-07-21T03:46:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=104"},"modified":"2026-07-21T03:46:06","modified_gmt":"2026-07-21T03:46:06","slug":"aita-for-telling-my-sister-she-doesnt-get-to-ask-me-to-hate-my-dad-for-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/topstoryusa.store\/?p=104","title":{"rendered":"AITA for telling my sister she doesn\u2019t get to ask me to hate my dad for her?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/95081-2-768x403.jpg\" alt=\"AITA For Rejecting Cultural Insults, Causing a Rift Over a Misguided Comment?\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><a href=\"\/\"> <\/a><a href=\"\/\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A heartfelt talk spiraled into an emotional showdown when an 18-year-old faced her younger sister\u2019s demand to despise their father\u2014a man who\u2019s been her rock. The twist? He\u2019s not her sister\u2019s biological father, a truth unearthed after their mother\u2019s affair shattered their family. For years, the younger sister\u2019s envy has festered, boiling over into pleas for her sibling to sever ties with their dad for \u201crejecting\u201d her. When the older sister stood firm, refusing to betray her father and pointing to their mother\u2019s betrayal as the root of the mess, harsh words and raw pain erupted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The clash reveals the complexity of loyalty, betrayal, and the scars of a broken family. The online community stands solidly behind the older sister, insisting she\u2019s not at fault. Let\u2019s unravel this poignant drama and see where it all went wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/668665-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/668665-2.jpg 1312w, https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/668665-2-300x168.jpg 300w, https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/668665-2-1024x574.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/668665-2-768x431.jpg 768w\" width=\"100%\" height=\"auto\"> This image is not real, it was generated by AI to depict the situation of the story.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>\u2018AITA for telling my sister she doesn\u2019t get to ask me to hate my dad for her?\u2019<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A painful set the stage for lingering wounds and complex loyalties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266695668-1.webp\" alt=\"So my parents divorced when I was 3. My mom was cheating on my dad and my sister who is 18 months younger turned out not to be his.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266696731-2.webp\" alt=\"My dad knew she was cheating and he left her just after my sister was born--which is when he found out, but he had to fight for a DNA test...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The younger sister\u2019s longing for a father figure fueled resentment toward her sister\u2019s bond with their dad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758267373668-1.webp\" alt=\"My sister has always been jealous that I have a dad and she doesn't and I always understood.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758267374650-2.webp\" alt=\"But around 5 years ago she started saying I should hate my dad because he abandoned her and didn't step up when she had no other family but our mom...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The sisters\u2019 relationship crumbled under the weight of unresolved pain, driving a wedge between them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266730437-1.webp\" alt=\"Ever since we have had a pretty s**tty relationship that is volatile enough that I moved mostly with my dad.So I only see her and my mom occasionally now but...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266731619-2.webp\" alt=\"Since I turned 18 in November I haven't seen them at all and she has started saying I'm siding with an abusive POS, a s**tty person and father who would...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The younger sister\u2019s demands intensified, but the older sister held her ground, igniting a fiery confrontation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266743362-1.webp\" alt=\"She said as my dad he should have loved her through me and that I owe it to her to stand up for that.I told her again that I won't...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758267406026-1.webp\" alt=\"She called me names. I told her to learn how to accept things and go after mom for her bio father if she wants to find out, and maybe blame...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The story highlights the enduring pain left by betrayal and the struggle to set boundaries. The younger sister\u2019s demand that her sibling renounce their father stems from deep abandonment wounds, misdirected at the wrong target. therapist John Gottman explains, \u201cUnhealed trauma from family ruptures can lead to misplaced blame, trapping loved ones in cycles of resentment\u201d (The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, 2015). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The mother\u2019s openness about her affair likely skewed the younger sister\u2019s perspective, making it easier to vilify the father than confront the mother\u2019s role as the sole parental figure she has left. The older sister\u2019s empathy for her sister\u2019s pain is heartfelt, but her refusal to sacrifice her bond with her father is a healthy boundary. Therapy could help the younger sister process her grief and redirect her anger, while the older sister should hold firm to her relationship with her dad, keeping the door open for future reconciliation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">See what others had to share with OP:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The online community rallied behind the older sister, affirming her right to cherish her father\u2019s love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266935468-1.webp\" alt=\"sneeky_seer \u2212 NTA why doesn\u2019t she hate your mum? At the end of the day, it was not your dad who created this whole situation.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266936665-2.webp\" alt=\"Snausagefestivus \u2212 NTA Your sister has a mom problem, not a dad or sister problem.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266937722-3.webp\" alt=\"the-mirrors-truth \u2212 NTA This isn't your dad's fault, this is your mother's fault and it is not your fault and it's incredibly petty of her to try to impact your...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266938970-4.webp\" alt=\"Consistent-Leopard71 \u2212 NTA. It is unfortunate that her father chose not to be in her life and neither did your father, but it isn't your fault. It also isn't your...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266940143-5.webp\" alt=\"She is being completely unreasonable in being angry with your father and for asking you to be angry with your father on her behalf.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266941273-6.webp\" alt=\"LivelyUnicorn \u2212 NTA - you are in no way responsible or should have to compensate anything in your life due to your mums mistakes! If she has no info on...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Many called out the mother\u2019s infidelity and urged the younger sister to seek her biological father. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266964503-1.webp\" alt=\"sassybsassy \u2212 NTA. You're right your sister needs to be mad at your mother. Your father was well within his rights to not want to raise another man's baby.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266966046-2.webp\" alt=\"It sucks that your mother has warped tour sisters thinking to such a degree. But why should you hate a man that been nothing but good to you? Your sister...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266967172-3.webp\" alt=\"Rduos \u2212 NTA. Its about time to be harsh with Mom and Sis. Mom cheated. Mom lied. Mom failed in the relationship.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266968266-4.webp\" alt=\"cjuy \u2212 NTA. What your dad went through was hard but your sister should be mad at other people like your mom and the bio-dad for not stepping up.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266969399-5.webp\" alt=\"dusktildawn9 \u2212 NTA - she needs to address her own issues. She shouldn\u2019t be involving you like this at all. Also think about how hard it would be for your...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266970652-6.webp\" alt=\"usernumber2020 \u2212 NTA she isn't his child. If anything she is a painful reminder of how his marriage failed. It takes a very generous person to overlook something like that.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some expressed empathy for the younger sister\u2019s pain but stressed the need for professional help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266992162-1.webp\" alt=\"Esme-Weatherwaxes \u2212 NTA. You sister really needs therapy and sounds like she is suffering from abandonment issues. I feel very sad for her, but it\u2019s not fair for her to...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266993311-2.webp\" alt=\"How has your mum been managing this with your sister? Has she been bad mouthing your father to her? I wouldn\u2019t be surprised if she has a lot of hidden...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266994513-3.webp\" alt=\"Acrobatic_Business49 \u2212 NTA: She's jealous, and that much isn't a surprise. But she needs therapy and she needs to understand that she was never your father's responsibility.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266995621-4.webp\" alt=\"That she should, rightfully, be angry with her mother and with the man who wouldn't step up when the time came.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758266998090-5.webp\" alt=\"RollingKatamari \u2212 NTA-but I get where she's coming from, all her life she has missed out on a father because of what your mom did. It\u2019s easier to put the...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758267000082-6.webp\" alt=\"[Reddit User] \u2212 NTA. Your sister has issues that SHE needs to work through. You can\u2019t do it for her and you hating or not hating your father isn\u2019t going...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Commenters suggested the mother\u2019s narrative may have fueled the younger sister\u2019s misplaced anger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758267019628-1.webp\" alt=\"Mysterious-System680 \u2212 NTA. Your sister is being completely unreasonable in asking you to cut off your father.\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758267021930-2.webp\" alt=\"It's understandable that she would be jealous that you had a good relationship with your dad while she had no father in her life, but that's not a reason for...\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/en.aubtu.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/wp-editor-1758267023122-3.webp\" alt=\"If she has heard your mother condemn your father for divorcing her rather than staying and accepting your sister as his child, it could influence her view of the situation....\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This raw tale exposes the deep wounds of a family torn by betrayal. The older sister\u2019s refusal to forsake her father is a stand for her own truth, yet her younger sister\u2019s pain runs raw and unresolved. The online community champions the older sister, urging therapy to help the younger heal. What do you think of her stand? How would you navigate a family fractured by secrets and hurt? Share your thoughts in the comments! <a href=\"\/\"><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A heartfelt talk spiraled into an emotional showdown when an 18-year-old faced her younger sister\u2019s demand to despise their father\u2014a man who\u2019s been her rock. The twist? 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